Sometimes it’s not really the kids with the problems, but rather the kids are reflecting their parent’s issues as they live their lives. So this being said; I’m sorry that your mother abandoned you again like she did when you were a child, this time leaving your children alone. But you were the one trying to be Mrs. Cleaver and let her back into your life. Hate to tell you, neither of you are nor were Mrs. Cleaver and nor will you ever be. You’re just not emotionally equipped to take on that role; counseling, try it!!